Dinner seating — a study

dinner seating - a study: 1839 photograph of a formal dinner. Huge round tables with 16 formally dressed men at each. The tables are crowded together. Image attribution: The Guardian

Study this 1839* 2014 dinner seating layout. What’s wrong with this picture?

  • Sixteen men at each table. Each man can only talk to the person on his left and right.
  • No women are present. In 2014, apparently, a woman’s place is still in the kitchen.
  • The tables are squashed far too close to each other.
  • How will they reach the wine in the center of each table, four feet away?

What else do you notice?

How much have things changed?

Well, for one thing, this dinner, held annually since 1829, still does not admit women!

“We are a men’s club, do not take this Gendergaga with us. Even the pope would not be invited if he was a woman.” [translation from German]
—Patrick Wendisch : Bild.de from January 19, 2019

Image attribution: The Guardian

*A hat tip to Dan Neuman who noticed that the image was taken recently, not in the 1800’s!

Tortured by Nights of the Round Table

Nights of the Round Table: photograph of The Grail at the Center of Arthur's Round Table, from a 14th-century French manuscript.

Do you use round tables (aka “rounds”) at your events? Then it’s time to talk about the Nights of the Round Table. Read on, prithee!

A medieval fantasy

Sadly, it’s not clear that King Arthur’s famous Round Table ever actually existed, let alone King Arthur himself. But let’s succumb to a romantic fantasy for a moment (or longer if you like) and assume that there really was a Round Table that looked like the picture above, and you were one of these fabulously clothed dudes hanging out on blocks that were de rigueur for luxurious seating in the 5th century.

How would that work for you?

For me, the “chair” would get to be annoying after a while, but what would really exasperate me would be that I’d only be able to talk to the Knights immediately to my left and right.

All those fascinating Knights of the Round Table. What wonderful stories they could tell! But I’m stuck with talking to just two of them for the whole banquet. Bummer!

Using rounds at events

Back to the present day.

What are round tables about and why do we use them? Well, a round table has no head, implying equal status to everyone who sits there. This is an ideal table shape for pick-your-own seating—no jockeying for the high-status “head” of the table—and everyone faces everybody else as much as possible, given the laws of geometry. As a result, round tables are optimum for small group work when tables are needed (see below).

The larger the table, the more people you can seat around it, but the farther people are from each other. The right table diameter depends on the number of people in each group. Unfortunately, round tables that are too large are often used at events. In practice, once you’re seated at a table that’s more than 54″ in diameter you need the hearing of a teenager, advanced lip-reading ability, or a working Cone of Silence to hear everything that’s going on.

Tables that are larger than needed will reduce the intimacy of the group, so choose the optimum group size and arrange for the correct size rounds in advance, as shown in this table (green is good):

The optimum number of seats versus table size

Table diameter Optimum number of seats
36” 4
48” 6
54” 7-8
60” 8
66” 9
72” 10

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s hard to make a strong case for large round tables. In my experience, group work that requires a table is less effective with group sizes larger than 8. And, using the industry standard formula, a 72″ table requires at least 12.1 sq. ft. of room space per person; a 48″ table requires 13.5 sq. ft. If you’re cramming people in so tightly that this difference is important, perhaps you’d enjoy a ride on the Tokyo subway.
subway-pushers
As a 70+-year-old starting-to-go-deaf guy, I find that 60″ tables provide a sub-par conversational experience. I strongly recommend not using group discussion tables larger than 60” for multiple table room sets, because they make it difficult for many people to hear those sitting across the table, even if the room has exceptional sound-deadening acoustics and the tables are spaced more widely apart than normal.

Do you even need tables at all?

Seating people at round tables makes sense if they’re going to:

  • Eat formally in the same room and there isn’t the time and money to change the room set.
  • Participate in certain kinds of group processes like The Solution Room or World Café where the table—covered with paper—is used as a place to document issues and ideas.

That’s it! Under any other circumstances get rid of the tables! They place an unneeded barrier between attendees, reducing intimacy and connection. And once they’re gone, it’s easy for session participants to quickly reconfigure the room set themselves to switch between, say, curved theatre seating, small group circles, and fishbowl layouts.

This discussion is tabled

Meeting planners; don’t make people suffer through another 1001 tortured Nights of the Round Table. Keep your round tables small, or eliminate them and your attendees will benefit.

Now, back to my medieval fantasy. Perhaps I can introduce a partner change between courses