Confession of a Blogger: Writing for Myself

Illustration of Adrian Segar writing, half-obscured by a curtainI have a confession to make. Though I’ve written over a thousand blog posts for this website, to be honest, I’m often writing for myself.

Writing for oneself is as old as writing itself. Writers have always written privately. Famous writers like Franz Kafka, Zora Neale Hurston, Edgar Allan Poe, and Emily Dickinson. And countless amateurs like me, writing private journals not for publication.

Private journaling

There have been years in my life when I’ve journaled daily, struggling to record and make sense of my experiences. Journaling privately helped me uncover and process what I was going through. Eventually, I stopped journaling, but I kept what I’d written for a long time. Until, one day, I flipped through my journals and realized I didn’t need to keep them anymore.

Private freewriting

While trying to become a writer, I practiced freewriting for several years. Freewriting helped me realize that I could write, that I was a writer. I still have those journals. Though I wrote everything in them for myself, I published one story — “The Batch Fixer” — on this blog last year.

Writing for myself

Although this blog contains posts for anyone to read, I’m often also writing for myself. For example, my post earlier this month: “Nine practical tips to letting go in a chaotic world“; believe me, I’m working on them myself. My posts on meditation, listening, and facilitation are often attempts for me to understand and put into practice what I’m writing about.

So, while I’m sharing advice that you, dear reader, may find helpful, I’m also writing for myself.

A hat tip to my men’s group for the inspiration for this post. We are going on an outing to Emily Dickinson’s home. Dickinson’s only publications during her lifetime were 10 of her nearly 1,800 poems and one letter.

Look back to look forward

look back to look forward: a photograph of a sculture of Janus in the Vatican. Creative Commons image courtesy of WikipediaSometimes it’s good to look back to look forward.

From September 2002 through November 2009 I kept a journal, writing each day before going to bed. Every once in a while I’ll pick one of the five thick notebooks I filled during those seven years and read some entries at random.

Why do I do this?

I don’t revisit my journals to immerse myself in my past. Back then, I wrote to capture and reflect on my experience while it was still fresh, to explore how I responded to and felt about the day’s events. I didn’t write for posterity, and there are many raw experiences in these pages that are painful to recall.

Instead, I dip into what I wrote to compare where I was then with where I am now.

Sometimes I discover that life circumstances have changed. Perhaps certain issues that once preoccupied me no longer do. (For example, my financial situation has changed for the better.) Perhaps some issues are still part of my life, but my response to them is different (e.g., speaking in public no longer scares me as much as it once did.) And perhaps I’m aware now of issues that were absent from my journals (e.g., the implications of growing older.)

Whatever I discover, when I look back at what I used to think and do I receive important information.

Often I discover that I am continuing to change and grow in specific ways. As someone who wants to be a life-long learner, someone who doesn’t want to be “stuck”, that is good and encouraging information to have.

I also notice that certain aspects of my life haven’t changed significantly. Frequently, that’s because they are core aspects of who I am and the world I inhabit.

And sometimes, I become aware that I’m stuck in some pattern of behavior or response that I’d like to change. That’s good information too.

Look back to look forward. At the end of a peer conference, a personal introspective allows participants to explore new directions as a result of experiences during the event. On a longer timescale, old personal journals (or any records of past personal introspection) can be a great tool for learning about ourselves and mapping our future path on life’s journey.

Creative Commons image of Janus courtesy of Wikipedia