Are You Out There?

In 1997, Dar Williams, inspired by listening late at night to New Hampshire and Vermont’s progressive radio station WRSI The River, wrote the song “Are You Out There”. Her beautiful song about audiences and humans’ desire for connection speaks to today’s events industry.

Why? First, listen!


Hoping that Dar will be OK with this, here are the relevant fragments of her song’s lyrics.

[Verse 1]
“…You always play the madmen poets
Vinyl vision grungy bands
You never know who’s still awake
You never know who understands and

[Chorus]
Are you out there, can you hear this?
Jimmy Olson, Johnny Memphis
I was out here listening all the time
And though the static walls surround me
You were out there and you found me
I was out here listening all the time

[Verse 2]
Last night we drank in parking lots
And why do we drink? I guess we do it ’cause
And when I turned your station on
You sounded more familiar than that party was…

[Verse 3]
…So tonight I turned your station on
Just so I’d be understood
Instead another voice said
I was just too late and just no good

[Chorus]
Calling Olson, calling Memphis
I am calling, can you hear this?
I was out here listening all the time
And I will write this down and then
I will not be alone again, yeah
I was out here listening
Oh yeah, I was out here listening
Oh yeah, I am out here listening all the time”
—Lyrics [full lyrics here] courtesy of Genius

“I am out here listening all the time.”

Like Dar Williams, a true fan of obscure (at the time) music, people search for experiences that meet their wants and needs. We yearn for connection and look for opportunities to get it. Events are the most powerful opportunities for connection (and learning). While today’s radio is, with few exceptions, a pure broadcast medium, it’s available to anyone with a radio who wants to turn it on and find an interesting program.

Event professionals must remember that their events’ true fans are “out here”. They are the people who will form the nucleus of your events’ success. These days, we have far more powerful tools than broadcast radio to find true fans. Use them!

“I will not be alone again.”

The young Dar Williams learned through her radio that other people like her “got” the music she loved.

While listening late at night, she realized that she was not alone.

Well-designed events transform audiences into a community.

Community meets a fundamental human need, for connection and belonging. Well-designed events create authentic community through interpersonal experiences at the event rather than attempting to manufacture it through entertainment and novel environments. Such events allow attendees to be truly heard and seen.

Tap into the power your events possess to create genuine community. Participants will become faithful attendees because they will not be alone again.

Community versus audience in journalism and meetings

Many meetings still focus on creating audiences rather than community. Yes, there’s a big difference. And not just at meetings. Here’s how Damon Kiesow, Knight Chair for Digital Editing and Producing at the Missouri School of Journalism, compares the concepts of community versus audience from a journalistic perspective.Screenshot of Mastodon toot on community versus audience by Damon Kiesow @dkiesow@social.kiesow.net Community does not scale. Audience scales. Community is decentralized for quality. Audience is centralized for profit. Community is generative. Audience is extractive. Nov 06, 2022, 10:37

Kiesow says:

Community does not scale.
Audience scales.

Community is decentralized for quality.
Audience is centralized for profit.

Community is generative.
Audience is extractive.
Damon Kiesow, @[email protected], Mastodon toot on Nov 06, 2022, 10:37

Kiesow concisely sums up why the news business and the meeting industry concentrate on audience rather than community. When media and meeting owners focus on short-term interests—big circulations and audiences, leading to higher status and consequential larger profits at the expense of “consumers”—it’s understandable that building community plays second fiddle to chasing media visibility and large audiences.

Jeff Jarvis’s perspective

Another media professional—journalist, professor, columnist, and author Jeff Jarvis—writes about similar themes. (These two quotes are from my posts on the parallels between the evolution of journalism and events (2015) and on the parallel missions of journalism and participant-driven and participation-rich events (2018).]

“What the internet changes is our relationship with the public we serve…What is the proper relationship for journalists to the public? We tend to think it’s manufacturing a product called content you should honor and buy…That’s a legacy of mass media; treating everybody the same because we had to…So we now see the opportunity to serve people’s individual needs. So that’s what made me think that journalism, properly conceived is a service.”
Interview of Jeff Jarvis by David Weinberger

A new definition of journalism: “…convening communities into civil, informed, and productive conversation, reducing polarization and building trust through helping citizens find common ground in facts and understanding.”
—Jeff Jarvis, Facebook’s changes

Jarvis believes that journalism should serve people’s individual needs rather than manufacture content for the masses. In addition, journalism’s service should be about convening communities into civil, informed, and productive conversation.

Community versus audience

I began my first book with the research finding (and common observation) that people go to conferences to network and learn.

When I asked people why they went to conferences, the two most common answers were: (1) to network with others (80%) and (2) to learn (75%). Seventy percent of my interviewees mentioned both of these reasons. In addition, 15 percent told me that they were required to attend annual conferences to maintain their professional status.

My later books (and many posts on this site) have emphasized the superiority of active over passive learning. Active learning occurs almost exclusively in community. Creating community at conferences around participant-driven content, therefore, creates a far more effective learning and connection-rich environment. As Kiesow illustrates for journalism, emphasizing community over audience also pays rich dividends for meeting attendees.

This brings us to a key question that is rarely openly discussed: Whom are conferences for? For decades, I have been championing peer conferences, where participants own their conferences. When the attendees are the owners, meeting designs that build and support community are the obvious way to go.

But, all too often, attendees are not the conference owners. Such owners, whether they be individuals or for-profit or non-profit entities, rarely have the same objectives for the event as the attendees. Making money for themselves or their organizations, increasing their status by running large events, promoting the ideas of a few people, or influencing the direction of a cultural or industry issue are their primary goals. Supporting attendee learning and connection is a secondary consideration.

The largely silent battles being fought about the future of journalism and meeting design are strikingly similar. Both realms can learn from each other.

Playing with myself

playing with myself: photograph of a young joyful girl looking at you, with one side of her face partly covered by a white curtainPlaying with myself

There are moments when I’m playing with myself. (No, not like that.)

“Yesterday I took the Trailways bus home from New York City. My seat had a small video screen above it. (The screen was blank.) We had a stop at Kingston, and as I stood up, I hit my head on the screen — then laughed at my blunder. My life is a slapstick comedy for an audience of one.”
—Sparrow, The Sun, July 2015

My life is a slapstick comedy for an audience of one.

At moments like these, my life feels perfect.

Photo attribution: Flickr user jliba