How to deal with a “quick question”

An email with the subject line Re: quick question To: Adrian Segar "Greetings Segar Consulting, Did you see my previous email about…? Sender and body of the email have been blacked out.During my 40+ years of consulting, I’ve received countless phone calls and emails that begin with a rushed introduction, followed by the ominous phrase: “I have a quick question.”

Beware!

In my experience, despite some folks’ naive explanations, this seemingly innocent phrase means one of two things:

  1. The person is trying to sell me something, or
  2. They know I charge for my time but want free advice.

The first—quick-question-as-sales-tool—is easy to deflect:

Q. “Can I set up a quick call to tell you about a product or service that will undoubtedly change your life?”

A. “No.”

The second approach is trickier. Perhaps my impressive expertise in answering the “quick question” will magically convince them to pay for my services!

The question may be quick, but the answer…

The real issue is that while the question may be “quick”, there’s no guarantee the answer will be short.

Q. What is the meaning of life?

A. ??????? [I’m pretty sure it’s not “42“.]

Occasionally, I don’t know the answer and can quickly tell the questioner, “Sorry, I don’t know about that,” perhaps referring them to someone who can help. But that’s rare. People don’t want to waste time asking someone unlikely to be helpful, so they usually have good reasons for reaching out to me.

Consulting as a dance

I’ve participated in hundreds of client-consultant conversations. I think of them as dances: mysterious, exciting, full of potential for creating something great, and, sometimes, unfortunately, disappointing.
In my experience, these contracting “minuets” can take as little as ten minutes or, let’s just say, far too long.

The Thirty-Minute Rule

So, if the questioner seems sincere, I invoke my Thirty-Minute Rule to avoid a never-ending dance.

The Thirty-Minute Rule is my reasonable compromise between the competing needs of a consultant and a client. It balances generosity with professionalism, while reinforcing the value of my expertise.

In consulting, “quick questions” often tread a fine line between goodwill and professional boundaries. While helping others builds relationships, my time and expertise are valuable. The Thirty-Minute Rule allows me to offer a fair compromise, demonstrating both generosity and respect for my professional worth. By setting clear limits, I ensure interactions remain productive and mutually beneficial.

After all, consulting is a dance that works best when both partners respect the steps.

Handling a meeting question that isn’t

a meeting question that isn't: photograph of a man wearing a name badge standing in the middle of a seated audience talking into a microphoneWe’ve all experienced the meeting question that isn’t. A session presenter or moderator asks for questions and someone stands up and starts spouting their own opinions. A concluding question (if they even have one) is little more than an excuse for their own speech.

Are you tired of attendees making statements during question time? Here are ways to deal with audience questions that aren’t actually questions.

Clearly convey your desired format and that questions are expected

Decide on ground rules for asking questions
Determine the ground rules for audience questions before the session.

Where will questions be asked: e.g. from a stage or roving mike?

What format should the questioner use: e.g. state name and organization, who the question is for (if a panel session), ask the question in one sentence, take less than thirty seconds.

Explain the ground rules before audience questions
Clearly explain the expected format for questions. Here’s what David Gergen says:

“If you would, identify yourself, be fairly succinct, and remember that a question ends with a question mark.”
—David Gergen, CNN commentator

Maintain control during question time

Interrupt and steer rambling questioners back on track
If an audience member rambles, interrupt (repeatedly if need be) with “Can you put that into a question?” and/or “Is this leading to a question?”

Don’t surrender the microphone
Once an audience member has a live microphone in their hand their mouth can potentially run amok. So roaming moderators or audience runners should never surrender the microphone. If you’re using a stage microphone, agree on a signal for your A/V staff to cut its feed if necessary.

Finally, two ways to eliminate live questions

Replace live questions with screened questions
Taking audience live questions has been traditional for centuries, but that doesn’t mean we have to do things the same way today. Instead, screen questions using:

  • Question cards: Distribute note cards to the audience at the start, and explain how to use them to take questions. Collect cards at the appropriate time.
  • Texting, tweeting, or an app: Explain how and when to use a cell number (text), hashtag (tweet), or conference app to submit questions.

Plan and staff an appropriate method to select questions to answer. Read out each screened question to the audience (or have a staff member do it.)

Consider using meeting formats where attendee opinions are welcome
The ultimate method of avoiding “questions that aren’t” is to use session formats where contributions from audience members are encouraged and welcome! My book The Power of Participation contains a comprehensive tool chest of formats you can use to integrate questions and contributions seamlessly into conference sessions.

Do you have further ways to handle a meeting question that isn’t? Share them in the comments below!

Photo attribution: Flickr user thejointstaff

A HT to two excellent books — Priya Parker‘s The Art of Gathering and Kristin Arnold‘s Powerful Panels — for ideas and quotes used in this post.