Six principles of conversation

conversation_2995911291_cfba89e806While reading Margaret Wheatley’s lovely book turning to one another I ran across the six principles she has “learned to emphasize” before beginning a conversation:

  • we acknowledge one another as equals
  • we try to stay curious about each other
  • we recognize that we need each other’s help to become better listeners
  • we slow down so we have time to think and reflect
  • we remember that conversation is the natural way human’s think together
  • we expect it to be messy at times

I’m especially taken by her third principle. We can’t listen by ourselves.

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  • http://twitter.com/thehubtalks The Hub

    Adrian! What a wonderful, wonderful post. Love the idea of establishing about these six principles in any relationship. The one that gets most overlooked, I think, is the second one. Too often, people forget that questions are a critical part of any ongoing relationship. Thanks for posting!

    • http://www.conferencesthatwork.com/ Adrian Segar

      Glad you liked the post, but we have to give the ultimate credit to Margaret Wheatley :-) .

      What’s been interesting in the responses posted on Twitter is that different principles resonate with different people. Perhaps our responses are a mirror to the work we have done or need to do on ourselves.

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